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The Four False Fantasies of Fornication

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Posted 8:30 am, January 5th, 2012

by Zestra News

Most people have sex in beds. This makes sense. Beds are horizontal. They have comfortable sheets. A bedroom is generally private. So why are so many people interested in having uncomfortable, challenging and potentially embarrassing intercourse in other locations?

“Because it’s AWESOME…”

…At least that’s what we’re told.

But is it awesome? Below are four places reputed to be excellent for hot hook-ups. But between them, you can expect to be cut, squished, bitten by bugs and stuffed full of sand. Some might call that less “awesome” and more “humiliating and painful.”

Of course, there are always different strokes for different folks…

False Fantasy #1: The Haystack

sex haystack fantasy

“A roll in the hay” is a popular American idiom for a quick and painless sexual encounter. But have you ever rolled in hay? Or even touched it? It’s rough. It’s itchy. And it will CUT YOU faster than a Ritalin-popping teenager with Mom’s razor. Add the potential for various creepy-crawlies and Rodents of Unusual Size, and you have an experience more befitting a Turkish prison than a romance novel.

False Fantasy #2: The Beach

sex beach fantasy

Blast you Hollywood! Who doesn’t watch the famous scene in “From Here to Eternity” and want to be swept into similar passion – waves crashing over sun-kissed hot bodies rolling in the silt? Sounds like a dream…

But the dream is a lie. One word: Sand. Sand everywhere. Between your toes, in your eyes, up your nose and yes, in the unmentionable areas – most of all in the unmentionable areas. Unless peeing shore grit for days is a personal goal, beach sex should be more of a pariah than Casey Anthony.

False Fantasy #3: The Mile High Club

sex airplane fantasy

The myth of the Mile High Club as a source of male and female arousal is potent in our United States. Perhaps it’s the plethora of transatlantic flights, but Americans seem particularly compelled to have intercourse in tiny plastic bathrooms, mere feet from their fellow passengers.

These brave (idiotic) souls, jacked up on half-cans of Diet Coke and mini-pretzels, sneak their way into airline commodes, determined to do the nasty. Sometimes they succeed – to be faced upon exit with scowling flight attendants and the reak of unchanged diapers.

But who are these people who want to have sex in the aviation industry’s version of a clown car? Most people find airline travel uncomfortable enough without adding a bout of Trashy Toilet Twister to the equation.

False Fantasy #4: The Woods

sex forest fantasy

Ever since Lady Chatterley spent a few salacious afternoons banging her gamekeeper in the forest, literature has judged the woods to be a sexy, humping Mecca. But it’s fairly apparent that D.H. Lawrence didn’t actually spend his sexy time outside. Between the sticks, rocks, broken bottles, used condoms, Snickers wrappers and random pieces of crime scene tape, the last place you should be getting naked is under the elms.

And, if that’s not enough to convince you, consider bird poop. Nothing kills the mood like being torpedoed by a loogie of white, gloppy avian excrement.

So there you have them: Four legendary locations that may not live up to the sexy images created by books and movies. We invite you to visit them for yourselves and share your experiences below.

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Zestra Follow Friday Returns!

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Posted 8:30 am, December 23rd, 2011

by Zestra News

Zestra wishes you and yours a Happy Holidays! (And really hopes you’re reading this by the fireplace at home.) Our Follow Friday for this week will be brief; we have last-minute presents to wrap just like the rest of you! (And not ALL of it is arousal oil.)

So we recommend taking a look at the following Twitter feeds:

Susan Mathison

Susan Mathison Twitter

Allison Braun

Allison Braun Tweet

Nicole Daedone

Nicole Daedone Tweet

Hillary Rubin

Hillary Rubin Twitter

Amber McCue

Amber McCue Twitter

Sherri Nickols

Sherri Nickols Twitter

Joy Nordenstrom

Joy of Romance Twitter

And remember to follow us for the latest and greatest in sex news!

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Zestra Helps You Get Over the Hump: Week 7

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Posted 8:30 am, December 21st, 2011

by Zestra News

Let the countdown begin! Hopefully, for those of you still slaving away at the mine, this Hump Day post will provide a quick laugh en route to the holiday weekend.

But first, a few Hanukah/Christmas/Kwanza/Festivus tips:
1. Try to look grateful when you get a used tape player from your great-uncle
2. Count to 30 before responding to your mother-in-law
3. Always choose cookies in lieu of all other food
4. Have fun!

Video of the Week:

Sexy Quotes from Sexy People

Angelina Jolie

“I think it is funny that we were freer about sexuality in the 4th century B.C. It is a little disconcerting.” –Angelina Jolie
“I like to have a Martini, two at the very most; three, I’m under the table, four I’m under my host!” –Dorothy Parker
“Sex education may be a good idea in the schools, but I don’t believe the kids should be given homework.” –Bill Cosby

Sexpert of the Week – Josey Vogels

Josey Vogels headshot

Zestra Sexpert-of-the-week Josey Vogels is as prolific as she is clever. Known as “Canada’s Carrie Bradshaw,” Ms. Vogels writes two newspaper columns, contributes to five blogs and hosts a sex and relationship series on radio. Oh, and in case that wasn’t enough, she writes books too. It makes the rest of us seem downright lazy, doesn’t it?

The youngest of eight children (her mother was quite prolific too), Ms. Vogels grew up on a dairy farm in Ontario, Canada. For the past decade, the journalism major has dispensed sex know-how and relationship advice to people throughout North America (despite her column being pulled in some more conservative markets).

According to Ms. Vogels, “The mainstream media are really uncomfortable with talking about kids having sex. It’s automatically assumed that any sexual experience will be traumatic.”

Sample topics she’s written about are “Women Have Lots of Casual Sex – Get Over It,” “Christmas Gift-Giving: the True Test of Your Relationship” and “Can Drugs Make You Love Someone You Don’t?”

This gifted writer gives sound advice while bravely discussing topics others consider taboo. We at Zestra admire her courage, honesty and fortitude.

Josey Vogels Twitter

You can follow Ms. Vogels on Twitter @joseyvogels and us

Tip of the week:

Santa Hat

Play Santa
Sure, everyone likes an iPhone or a cashmere sweater, but give your partner the real gift of intimacy this holiday. Most people, when they think of “intimacy,” think of intercourse. But sex, while enjoyable, isn’t the only way of showing your love. Back massages, erotic baths, simple touching and even playful banter can also display affection and attraction. After all, gifts mean nothing without a caring partner.

The results of last week’s Facebook poll

Question: If I was stuck on a desert island, I could do without ________.

Desert Island

Best answers:
“…The Hallmark Channel”
“…The smoke monster from Lost
“…The Republican primary”
“…My cell phone”

1.) Check out our Facebook page to vote on this week’s poll question: “If I could have sex anywhere, I would have it…”
a. In space
b. In a church
c. On The Planet of the Apes
d. On top of Brad Pitt

Results will be published next week! Happy Holidays!

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Zestra’s (You-Really-Don’t-Have-To) Fake-It-Friday

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Posted 8:30 am, December 16th, 2011

by Zestra News


Your Brain on O

Women are prolific, efficient and effective liars…

…At least, they are when it comes to faking orgasms.

Over the past few weeks, Zestra has tweeted, posted, blogged and commented on a number of media stories related to the seemingly irrepressible habit women have of acting out the Big O instead of experiencing one.

Scientists have speculated on why women fake it. How much they fake it. When they fake it. With whom they fake it. What it means when they fake it.

The fake orgasm may be History’s tallest tale.

The thing is, though… WOMEN DON’T HAVE TO. We have the technology! We have Zestra.

Below is a sample of our favorite orgasm news. Just keep in mind that in today’s day and age, “faking it” is a choice, not a necessity.

Women's Health Screen Grab

Women’s Health IDs reasons women fake orgasms, and why it’s not good for them…

ABC News Orgasm Screen Grab

ABC News claims some women experience a “labor orgasm” during childbirth.

CNN orgasm screen grab

Study finds women who fake orgasms more likely to believe their mate will cheat.

The Daily Fix Orgasm Screen Grab

MRI shows a woman’s brain lighting up during orgasm.

Be sure to come back and visit this blog for the best in orgasm and sex information. You should also follow us on Twitter using the button below!

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Zestra Helps You Get Over the Hump: Week 6

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Posted 8:30 am, December 14th, 2011

by Zestra News

It’s Wednesday, which means you’re half-way to the weekend! (And, the holidays are creeping closer every day, so we hope you’ve at least started on the holiday shopping…)

Below are a few items to make the next couple of days a little bit better – Katherine Heigl explains why she’s such a big fan of neutering pets, Woody Allen notes the benefit of masturbation and someone has a crush on Dame Judi Dench… Check out this week’s Hump Day post below.

Video of the Week:

Sexy Quotes from Sexy People

Billy Crystal headshot

“Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place.” –Billy Crystal
“Don’t knock masturbation – it’s sex with someone I love.” –Woody Allen
“It isn’t premarital sex if you have no intention of getting married.” –Drew Carey

Sexperts of the Week – The Kinsey Institute

Kinsey Institute Logo

The Institute for Sex Research (later known as The Kinsey Institute) was founded in 1947 by Dr. Albert Kinsey, a zoologist at Indiana University.

Kinsey and his institute quickly became famous for The Kinsey Reports on sexuality, released as Sexual Behavior in the Human Male and Sexual Behavior in the Human Female in 1948 and 1953, respectively.

Discussing such then-taboos as homo- and bi-sexuality, sadomasochism and marital sexual behavior, Kinsey’s studies incurred a great deal of skepticism and negative press. The Kinsey Report is most famous for its “Kinsey Scale,” a 0 to 6 numbered continuum that suggests sexuality isn’t an unambiguous yes / no proposition, but comprised of complex, fluid impulses and behaviors.

Though Kinsey died in 1956, his work lives on in the Institute, which remains one of the foremost authorities on human sexuality. Using its website and social media to deliver information and answer questions, the Kinsey Institute (and peripheral site Kinsey Confidential) seeks to provide people with a forum to discuss all manner of sexual topics.

Kinsey Institute Tweet

You can follow the institute on Twitter @kinseyinstitute and us

Sex tip of the week:

Visit an erotic store together

Sex shop

Maybe it’s the neon XXX, but many people feel awkward visiting an adult store. Yet, a trip to the local sex shop can considerably spice up things in the bedroom. Not only will it give you and your partner some interesting bonding time, the surroundings may jumpstart a conversation that allows each of you to confess any romantic concerns or fantasies.

The results of last week’s Facebook poll

Question: My ugly crush is_________________

Best answers:

Larry David
Larry David headshot

Steve Buscemi
Steve Buscemi headshot

Dame Judi Dench
(Who, to be fair, is just old.)
Dame Judy Dench headshot

Kathleen Turner
Kathleen Turner headshot

See all the responses here.

Check out our Facebook page to vote on this week’s poll question: “I can do without…” (And we know it’s not arousal oil!)

Best results will be published next week!

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Zestra Follow Friday: Week 2!

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Posted 8:30 am, December 9th, 2011

by Zestra News

The work week is almost over and Zestra is here to send you smiling into the weekend.  First up we have some entertaining sex legends, followed by our Follow Friday Twitter recommendations!

5 Sex Legends:  Fact or Fiction?

Catherine the Great

Catherine the Great and her horse

It was rumored that the great Russian empress met her death while having intercourse with a horse (interhorse?).  Though a great story, this is false.  She died of natural causes in her bed.  Alone.

Wilt Chamberlain

Wilt Chamberlain and his 20K

Chamberlain claims to have slept with 20,000 women over the course of his life.  The math renders this claim dubious.  Estimating sexual activity between the ages of 16 and 63 (when he died), he would have needed to couple with more than one unique partner every day.  Seems unlikely.

Eleanor Roosevelt

Eleanor Roosevelt and Lorena Hickok

Gossip about a sexual relationship between the former First Lady and Hickok – friends since they met in 1933 – has persisted through the years.  Over 2,000 letters exist between the two of them.  No one was in the bedroom with Roosevelt and Hickok, so there is no “proof” – but phrases like “I wish I could lie down beside you tonight and take you in my arms” definitely imply a certain intimacy.

Thomas Jefferson

Thomas Jefferson and Sally Hemings

Rumors of a relationship have hung around since Jefferson’s presidency.  He never denied or confirmed them.  In 1998, however, descendants of Jefferson and Hemings were DNA tested and results indicated the participants were related, so experts agree it is probable this legend is true.

Don't Look Now

Julie Christie, Donald Sutherland and “Don’t Look Now”

Rumors persist to this day that the 70s superstars had actual intercourse during the filming of their sex scene in the 1973 film “Don’t Look Now.”  It IS a rather graphic scene, but is it real?  Answer:  Who knows?  Sutherland and Producer Peter Katz say no.  However, Peter Bart, a Paramount executive at the time (and subsequent editor of Variety), claims he clearly witnessed bonafide sex taking place.  (And talk was Christie’s then-boyfriend Warren Beatty demanded to edit the footage himself.)

Zestra Recommends…

Info you should know from people you should be following on Twitter:

Susan Vernicek

IdentityMag Tweet

“Identity is an online magazine that empowers women to Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.™ We are all individual in our thoughts, interests, beliefs and experiences. Each of us harbors our own fears, doubts, questions and insecurities. That’s why we bring you a positive and safe place to turn for information, inspiration, support, sharing, and “permission” to just be who you are.” –Susan Vernicek

SexIs Magazine

SexIsMagazine Tweet

An online magazine affiliated with female fun store Eden’s Fantasy, SexIs tweets a lot of terrific information, especially from columnists The Bloggess, Nina Hartley and Rachel White.

Liz Weinmann

theDAREforce Tweet

Liz Weinmann founded the DARE force to help women achieve success and self-actualization in their lives.  Ms. Weinmann returned to college for an MBA after age 40, fulfilling a life-long dream, and now devotes her time to helping other women achieve their goals.

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