Posts Tagged ‘painful intercourse’

The Four False Fantasies of Fornication


Posted 8:30 am, January 5th, 2012

by Zestra News

Most people have sex in beds. This makes sense. Beds are horizontal. They have comfortable sheets. A bedroom is generally private. So why are so many people interested in having uncomfortable, challenging and potentially embarrassing intercourse in other locations?

“Because it’s AWESOME…”

…At least that’s what we’re told.

But is it awesome? Below are four places reputed to be excellent for hot hook-ups. But between them, you can expect to be cut, squished, bitten by bugs and stuffed full of sand. Some might call that less “awesome” and more “humiliating and painful.”

Of course, there are always different strokes for different folks…

False Fantasy #1: The Haystack

sex haystack fantasy

“A roll in the hay” is a popular American idiom for a quick and painless sexual encounter. But have you ever rolled in hay? Or even touched it? It’s rough. It’s itchy. And it will CUT YOU faster than a Ritalin-popping teenager with Mom’s razor. Add the potential for various creepy-crawlies and Rodents of Unusual Size, and you have an experience more befitting a Turkish prison than a romance novel.

False Fantasy #2: The Beach

sex beach fantasy

Blast you Hollywood! Who doesn’t watch the famous scene in “From Here to Eternity” and want to be swept into similar passion – waves crashing over sun-kissed hot bodies rolling in the silt? Sounds like a dream…

But the dream is a lie. One word: Sand. Sand everywhere. Between your toes, in your eyes, up your nose and yes, in the unmentionable areas – most of all in the unmentionable areas. Unless peeing shore grit for days is a personal goal, beach sex should be more of a pariah than Casey Anthony.

False Fantasy #3: The Mile High Club

sex airplane fantasy

The myth of the Mile High Club as a source of male and female arousal is potent in our United States. Perhaps it’s the plethora of transatlantic flights, but Americans seem particularly compelled to have intercourse in tiny plastic bathrooms, mere feet from their fellow passengers.

These brave (idiotic) souls, jacked up on half-cans of Diet Coke and mini-pretzels, sneak their way into airline commodes, determined to do the nasty. Sometimes they succeed – to be faced upon exit with scowling flight attendants and the reak of unchanged diapers.

But who are these people who want to have sex in the aviation industry’s version of a clown car? Most people find airline travel uncomfortable enough without adding a bout of Trashy Toilet Twister to the equation.

False Fantasy #4: The Woods

sex forest fantasy

Ever since Lady Chatterley spent a few salacious afternoons banging her gamekeeper in the forest, literature has judged the woods to be a sexy, humping Mecca. But it’s fairly apparent that D.H. Lawrence didn’t actually spend his sexy time outside. Between the sticks, rocks, broken bottles, used condoms, Snickers wrappers and random pieces of crime scene tape, the last place you should be getting naked is under the elms.

And, if that’s not enough to convince you, consider bird poop. Nothing kills the mood like being torpedoed by a loogie of white, gloppy avian excrement.

So there you have them: Four legendary locations that may not live up to the sexy images created by books and movies. We invite you to visit them for yourselves and share your experiences below.

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11 Awesome Things You Just Missed By Not Following Zestra on Twitter


Posted 9:43 am, November 4th, 2011

by Zestra News

Zestra Rush Twitter

The best and worst thing about the internet is that it’s an infinity of information (you can find practically anything on there). Who has time to sort through the thousands of posts, articles, blogs, tweets, comments and likes? Well, guess what—we do. Here at Zestra, we scrutinize the interweb every day for the latest and greatest in sexpert advice and female sexuality info to pass along to you via Twitter.

But we can only pass it along if you’re following us.

Check out 11 of our most recent – often insightful, sometimes funny – tweets and retweets of our latest finds:

1.) If your husband doesn’t want sex, it’s probably not your fault

Your Husband Doesn't Want to Have Sex

2.) Why men want to kiss before sex and women want to kiss after

Women After Sex

3.) Cops to lady loin grabber: Leave that junk alone! via @tsgnews

Lady groin grabber

4.) Sex moves women want, but are too afraid to admit

5 Sex Moves Women Want But Are Afraid to Ask

5.) Bad economy could equal more sex [Video] via @KCTV

Bad economy equal more sex screen grab

6.) Most common excuse to turn down sex: “I’m too tired.” Strangest excuse: “My infection hurts.”

Skinny on Female Libido

7.) 7 words that will help you reach full orgasm

Orgasm 7 words

8.) Think your sex drive is stuck in park? Maybe you just don’t know how to turn on the engine.

Female Libido

9.) Would you retire a sex toy if a TSA worker found it with nodding approval?

TSA worker sex toy grab

10.) Sex advice from psychics. They knew we were going to tweet this.

Sex Advice from Psychics

11.) One big score leads to another? Female condom thief nabs over $500 of prophylactics via @EdenFantasys

Condom Kleptomaniac

For those of you who aren’t on Twitter (or think it’s too much of a hassle to get set up) it’s actually super easy. Twitter signing up requires entering your name, email and a password. That’s it! Then you can follow us (and anyone else who catches your fancy). Easy-peasy.

It’ll be worth it. We promise.

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Sexual Side Effects of Breast Cancer Treatment


Posted 5:12 pm, July 10th, 2011

by Rosann

Last month in the Breast Journal there was a groundbreaking article that went to press:  Current Overview of the Management of Urogenital Atrophy in Women with Breast Cancer by Pruthi (from the Mayo clinic ) et al who reviewed the concerns about sexual complaints as a result of breast cancer treatment.  The article discuss the concerns over the undiagnosed concern of vaginal dryness which can lead to severe pain during intercourse which has far reaching implications affecting, not only the cancer survivor herself but can impact the relationship dynamic. Although the researchers cite that vaginal and vulvar dryness can be relieved with minimally absorbed local vaginal estrogen preparations, the risk of recurrence and long term safety remains to be elucidated in breast cancer survivors.  They propose a treatment paradigm which includes non-hormonal moisturizers and lubricants coupled with lifestyle management as first line defense and treatment for vaginal atrophy.  Minimally absorbed local estrogen products, such as low-dose vaginal 17 b-estradiol (vaginal estradiol tablets or vaginal estradiol ring) may be considered for the treatment of symptomatic dryness that is unresponsive to conservative treatments after careful consideration and discussion between the patient and her oncologist.

Besides the concerns with dryness, the authors discuss some changes that can and do occur with the orgasmic response and overall sexual satisfaction. The authors mention Zestra®, “a botanical formulation composed of borage seed oil, evening primrose oil, angelica extract, coleus extract, vitamin C, and vitamin E stimulates sensory nerve conduction and has improved sexual function in postmenopausal women.” ( Pruthi; 2011 page 4)

Every woman is connected to breast cancer in some way- either a friend, family member, colleague or acquaintance has the disease. Breast cancer patients can rest assured that they are not alone, not destined to suffer sexual complaints and have their sensuality and sexuality robbed from them even in the face of disease.  Sexual concerns remain high on the priority list for breast cancer survivors and remaining sensually connected to their femininity and sensuality is an important quality of life concern.

This post was provided by guest blogger Dr. Michael L. Krychman, Executive Director of the Southern California Center for Sexual Health and Survivorship Medicine.


Sandhya Pruthi, MD, James A. Simon, MD,_ and Amy P. Early, MD_

Current Overview of the Management of Urogenital Atrophy in Women with Breast Cancer.  The Breast Journal June 2011.

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Does It Always Have to Be About the Penis?


Posted 4:46 pm, April 11th, 2011

by Rosann

It seams that many of my patients this month were talking about “the penis.”  What could this mean?  Women are now becoming more comfortable when it comes to discussing their own sexuality and sexual needs – we see more sexually explicit scenes on television and movies, stronger women who are sexually veracious and we are pushing the sexual envelop more and more.  Women are now seeking specialized care from  sexuality specialists to treat their sexual complaints whether it is painful intercourse, loss of libido or changes in orgasmic intensity and latency.  The woman, herself, feels that her sexual satisfaction is her own responsibility – and a very important one at that.  In the not so recent past, women were often made to feel reliant on their sexual partner for sexual satisfaction, the woman complied with his advances and hoped and often prayed his “sexual moves” would do the trick to excite and entice her sexually.  A woman was often expected to be passive in sex play and if by some chance she happened to be sexually dissatisfied, it was never the man’s fault.  She was often blamed and erroneously labeled as sexually frigid.  Thankfully, the tides are changing, albeit slowly, that a woman must solely rely on her partner, his technique or his penis, to ensure her own sexual satisfaction. Women are now taking ownership for their sexual satisfaction! The concept that sex is all about the penis is slowly falling to the wayside, the female sexual satisfaction revolution moves forward.

In my sexuality center, women are asking more detailed questions about their own sexual response and anatomy and are seeking proactive solutions for their sexual concerns or difficulties.  Effective solutions are available.  My patients have experienced particularly good results with topically applied Zestra®- patented blend of essential oils and extracts which has been clinically tested to enhance sexual satisfaction.  Purchase online or in the privacy of your own home and feel proactive on her journey towards sexual revival and satisfaction.

Just remember, it’s not all about the penis – it’s about you too, ladies.

This month’s tip “From the desk of the Sexual Medicine Gynecologist” was provided by guest blogger Dr. Michael L. Krychman, Executive Director of the Southern California Center for Sexual Health and Survivorship Medicine.

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